Q: Last Christmas my six-year son made a terrible scene when he did not like one of his gifts. It was very embarrassing. It caused quite a discussion among the family members questioning how I should have handled the situation. I am concerned it might happen again this year and would like to be better prepared. What should I do?

A: Children are very excited when opening presents and often do not know how to properly handle disappointment. It is a good idea to speak privately with your son shortly before Christmas. Explain the holiday spirit of giving and that the person who gives him a gift believes he will like what they have selected. If he doesn't like a particular gift, ask him what he thinks would be a good way to respond. He may come up with a good solution on his own. If not, suggest he just thank the person for the gift. Don't force him to lie. This will only send a different and improper message to your son. Simply thanking someone for the gift doesn't imply he likes or dislikes the gift. Explain to him also that you two probably will be able to take the gift back to the store and exchange it for something else he would like better. Shortly before opening the gift, remind him of these things so that he can be prepared.

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